One hears it all the time. “You have to do what’s best for yourself,” the say. At its best, the phrase is used to support someone who is suffering because they are giving too much to others. In my head, though, it pops up as a thinly disguised excuse for putting something I want before the needs of people I love.
When I look back at my decisions, I have put myself first without exception, and I’m not proud of it. Every day brings chances to care for each other- and though I have passed these up so often in the past, I am slowly learning how.